Sympathy Pains? Are they real?

One thing my mother taught me about was Sympathy pains and the real power of love.  Sympathy pains are felt by someone who loves another person who happens to be in pain.  The pain is felt in the same location as the person who loved and actually feeling pain; whether it be a heart, shoulder, bones, or even teeth.  She told me that when ever I felt pain (if I hurt myself); she would also feel that very same pain and to back this up; there were many examples of the power of motherhood and knowing if a child is in trouble.  She told me of many moms who had lost their children and right before doing so felt a horrid pain from what that child might have experienced prior to losing his or her life. 

Well today I got to experience that; I get so many pains all the time and many times my honey will feel those pains himself in his love for me.  He hates more than anything to see me in pain and always reminds me that I'm tough as nails and/or the toughest person he knows.  I don't feel tough in any way; I can barely do anything without feeling pain but I do have to endure quite a bit each day and I am more than happy to do that; just to live and to love this fabulous man.  Sometimes it just doesn't seem fair that I have to suffer so with this disease; I wished so much there was a cure. Anyway back to those sympathy pains.  A couple of days ago I placed some freshly washed shot glasses up in a special place on top of the refrigerator where I had seen him put them there before (all of our cabinets are full to and over capacity).  He was reaching up on top of the fridge for something? and ended up knocking those shot glasses all over the floor. There were literally hundreds of tiny pieces of glass all over the floor and we didn't think anything of it until last night when my husband complained that he felt a piece of glass in his right eye (near the middle of the eyelid).   I felt so bad for him; I had made him cornish game hen, corn and peas, and something else?  Anyway he enjoyed his meal and then his eye started bothering him.  He was trying to not dig in the eye but it was too painful for him; about 15 minutes later; I started feeling as if my eye was being cut open; it was horrible pain but the pain finally subsided for both of us as I utilized our Vaporizer; I also had abdominal pain from another bowel blockage.  It just never ends!)  Those can be so painful!  I just knew this eye pain was a result of the love that I have for him; I was having sympathy pains for him and it's definately not the first time I have done this.



When he hurt his knee back in 2004 (he had to have surgery to replace his ACL and Miniscus); but I definitely felt horrid knee pains while he was enduring them just prior to his surgery and even while he was healing.  We both had to heal from our own surgeries that month of April in 2004.  I had an emergency Abdominal surgery just 2 weeks before his surgery and then about 3 weeks after his surgery; the cat needed surgery to remove his penis?  He had crystitis; God bless his soul, they cut off his blocked penis and made him a  Pussy cat!)  What a sad healing family we were!  All three of us had surgery in April!

 One accomplishment my honey and I completed was getting both Tonto and Blue Belle washed!  They are both so incredibly soft that we just can't keep our hands off of both of them; they are not complaining at all.  Tonto was so happy to have his bath that he has been sitting in the corner of the room kissing at me.  Now cats kiss with their eyes; they will blink their eyes at you to kiss you.  It's really cute.  I know Tonto doesn't look so happy in this photo but he was when he got home.  He hates the entire car ride to the vet or to the grooming place.  We use Pet Food Express for self service baths.  They have a nice size grooming table and the shampoos are all organic.  Tonto likes the orange peel shampoo and the Aloe and Oatmeal for his itchies.  I couldn't find a flea on either of them; so we are pretty lucky.

Well this horrible abdominal pain I have been experiencing is from being blocked with food.   My system is just not ready to handle digesting food and I have to face that fact.  I still starve to death even though I am getting TPN nutrition; I just can't help being so hungry.   I tried to eat some Thai food on Friday night (mostly soup) and I'm thinking that it's not going through my system even though I chewed everything until it was beyond liquid (slop).  I haven't gone to the bathroom all weekend long and hopefully we won't be visiting an ER room anytime soon.  It does have me worried.    I'm doubling up on the Senna and Col-Rite and I'm also draining my G-tube regularly.   Well with my serious lack of a sex drive; I would prefer having a G-spot rather than a G-tube! LOL.  OK sick joke, but it is true; it sucks to be lacking in that department.  Everything  happening to me has been pretty scary and I have also been puking all week long.  I  just can't seem to hold anything in no matter how hard I try.  I'm also still getting those horrible urinary infections and  I went to see a doctor today as he showed me my CAT scan; how freaking weird was that?  I wished so much that I could post that very interesting CAT scan here so that all of you can view it.  I was able to see all of the electric components of this Medtronic Pain Pump in my stomach and the twisted path of my nephostomy Stint.  I sure hope the surgery is successful in 3 weeks. Yes, I'm getting the Stint replaced because it is about that time to replace it.  So many surgeries and so little time?

I thought I would do something different and perhaps at least try.  I was prescribed Premarin after I got my total and complete hysterectomy and then some because I had to go through sudden Menopause and sudden is a bit understated here.   Anyway, this is just another form of HRT (Hormone Replacement Therapies).  Premarin is actually made out of pregnant horse piss!  Can you believe that?  Well these horses are made to stay pregnant and the poor babies resulting are sent to a slaughter auction at as early as 3 months of age.  Apparently there is a huge market in Europe for young horse meat; primarily in Japan.

  Since this drug and those horses helped me in first 2 years of living with the disease; I feel it is my obligation to try to find homes for these beautiful babies  for which I would love to adopt but have no place or energy to keep them!(.  I have always loved horses! I love their smells, their intelligence, what they do for me and probably others too in being around them; I could go on and on.  I love their bodies especially!  They are the most beautiful animals!  Here is a baby girl with Blue Eyes that I would love find a home for.  Her name is Treasure and she sure looks like a Treasure to me! I was told that they also call her the Barbie Doll Girl because of her blue eyes and natural black eyeliner around her eyes.  She looks just a Barbie doll!  Oh how I wish I could adopt her; you can also sponsor a horse as well because this poor organization is having to feed these beautiful babies which I'm sure eat more than a dog or cat.  Every little bit helps and I commend this organization for doing what they do to help save these magnificent animals.  I wish these horses could be trained for police work; they are part Draft and could carry a heavy police officer.

Here is the contact information for those interested in adopting some Premarin Foals and Horses or just sponsoring a few or just one. 

Wow! My life and all the pain I have to live with!.  At least I have lot of love from all over the world and many prayers and good thoughts for my healing.  I do have hope and some days are good and some days not so good with the pain; but no day is wasted for me even if I have to sleep most of the day; at least my body is getting it's vital rest.   Peace and Love to all of you!

Radiation Dermatitus? and more....

WARNING: Much of this post is to be read at your own discretion.  If it bothers you to read about  the countless female problems then maybe you should pass on this one.  It is a very honest and personal post of problems I am dealing with and fighting this horrible disease called Cancer.   I know for a fact that I am not the only person in this world that has this particular problem. No matter what my husband is right there by my side fighting this with me; he does everything he can to ensure that I survive each day as we approach them.  I know that I have him worrying practically constantly because of the pain I  so often suffer in.  He wishes so much that he could just take the pain away or for me to not suffer any more but the truth is; my love for him is worth every bit of this suffering; he makes my days more than worth living.  He is my rock, my hero, and my best friend in the world!)

Well first off, I am dealing with this feeling of having a urinary infection (again) and it hurts  like hell to go pee sometimes.  How unpleasant is that?  Now this is the ultra embarrassing part and the add insult to injury part of another thing I am suffering from.  It's painful and its so incredibly itchy!  It makes me want to scratch until I am bleeding; that how bad it has gotten.  I try so hard not to itch but sometimes I am weak at the urge to do so.  It's pretty powerful stuff!   My picc line itches like crazy too but this is different. The reason that I am also suffering from this severe itching is I know some way connected from having had the  radiation to my abdomen.

I guess part of where they radiated me was in my crotch area because Palin had spread her  death grips down there as well.  How unpleasant; wait till you hear the rest.  We already know about my right side that has the hockey puck (Medtronic Pain Pump); well the left side contained Palin but I had no idea until lately that she also spread down close to where my bowels are. Anyway, I can't help but itch like crazy and now I have this dark red and blue colored burn in a most unpleasant  of all place;s talk about adding more insult to my injuries! Ok the location is just above my pubic area; actually right on top of it and it's red and blue, bubbly and very flaky with dried skin. I looks like I have a horrid looking crotch area and its the ugliest of all sores I have ever seen:.(   It's not pretty and believe me it's not pleasant either (not in the least!).  Most of the time I am bothered with the horrid itch while I am standing in line at the grocery store; now that  really sucks!   So if you felt that your life is less than perfect; well imagine that too?   The odd thing is; I love my life despite this and all that!)  I  also have  this huge gastric tube with a large bandage covering most of my stomach; how's a woman supposed to feel pretty like this for my most deserving man?

I posted this problem on an excellent Ovarian Cancer support group board and it was answered in practically minutes.  I got 3 great responses but it does scare me because it is a Radiation burn or Radiation Dermatitus.  Well believe it or not my honey still loves me and feels that I am the most beautiful woman in the world.

thanks (well now I'm embarrassed!(

Well I made the mistake of watching Dateline NBC about how horrible and scary the internet is; another reason to avoid the internet!  Beware of middle aged sick men who want you to kill yourself or commit suicide and will even suggest how to do it; and make sure to do it in front of a webcam.  How in the hell can someone be so sick? and these are young vulnerable kids we are talking about?   It's not the end of the world if you get embarrassed at school or if other kids  are making fun of those few who decide that there is no way out; but there really is.    It made me want so bad to post a link to my blog there so that those kids or anyone considering this sicko to rethink their options and at least be thankful for what they do have.   Can their bodies allow for them to eat, play, ride their bikes, get a dog (or cat), never experiencing true love; decide to kill themselves before they can get any of their life goals completed.   I just can't imagine anyone wanting to kill themselves over money or anything; actually if you are suffering in extreme pain and you know you are dying and don't wish to suffer anymore; I do understand that too; I just have not made it there yet.   Animals are really cool that way in that they too know when their time is up and we as humans eventually get there too.  I know I'm not there yet even though at times it might seem downright aweful what I am going through; I'm a glutton for punishment and I feel that is one thing that has gotten me this far and pot too!  I love addrenaline rushes like going really fast down a steep mountain on a snowboard; I can still close my eyes and imagine myself skating or boarding.  It's a very good form of meditation for me. I still wish to fight and I still feel that I have so much to fight for.  I don't want to die; at least not yet.  I'm not done with LIVIN!  I have a few more things that I would like to get done.

I have been riding my bike everyday except for today; it was just too hot and the air quality is really bad.  I only have just a few hours in the morning (8) to ride my bike.  I can't ride for the other 16 hours because I am hooked up to my TPN.  That would be a nightmare to get myself out of if I got hung up on the wheels or chain! Youch!  It would rip out my picc line and that would be next to difficult to replace.

  Tonight I am missing out on seeing Bad Brains which is really a legendary band.  I used to skate to Bad Brains a lot when I was just a young skate betty as we were commonly called or referred to.   I never got to see this band live and tonight all the original bandmembers are playing.  I first got into Bad Brains when I was about 16 or 17; I had the "I against I" Tape (for my car) and the first time I ever heard them; I fell in love with them instantly.  I could not believe the sound; they sounded amazing even on Tape.   I had one of those rare Albums where every single track is amazing.  

In about 1994 or 95; I was working in this Microbrewery Restaurant in Sacramento and it was pretty late (around 2am).  I usually worked late and I was working my way up bussing tables back then (talk about back breaking work).  I got home in my little white shirt and tie; unlocked the door to my townhouse apartment and a big poof of smoke comes rushing out.  Did it ever smell so good?)  All of the members of Bad Brains were there in my living room smoking out of my room mate's bong.  What a beautiful site to see!  I was so happy and surprised.  I rushed upstairs and took a quick shower, changed out of my dirty white shirt, ties, and filthy black pants.  No I did not sleep with any of them; but I did get them all to sign both of my CDs and it was  so cool to talk with them for just a little while.  They needed to get some rest and get going back on the road.  My room mate had gone to see KORN and Bad Brains earlier that evening (I was really surprised to hear that Bad Brains had opened up for KORN)    I was really surprised but could not for the life of me get that night off with such short notice (1 day)  It was like a Friday or Saturday.  My room mate and I dug for extra pillows, air mattresses, sleeping bags, and blankets and sheets.  They were gone hours later but it was really cool to meet everyone (H.R., Dr. Know, Darryl, and Earl).  So that's my little story about meeting Bad Brains!)

Well the original members are back together and we had been planning to go but we were really more reluctant to go because of my unpredicable health problems.  Many times if we do go out; I will most likely spend the evening in the bathroom.  It just sucks that my intestines are no better than that.  They have been acting up quite a bit today and being disruptive to us while watching TV.  OMG where they loud and painful!  No pain medications excpept my natural medicine with out bad side effects; it's all good; except for missing an awesome show.  My intestines just don't last at all; maybe a mile bike ride and that's it most of the time.  I don't get to go many places except the occational hospital visit; sometimes the grocery store across the street.   Sometimes we get lucky and are able to travel short distances with out many problems.  No matter what I have to go to the bathroom when I arrive someplace  or shortly before leaving.  It's kind of a bother and to me its just one of the other things in life that I have to put up with.  My honey always makes me feel better about situations that we tend to get in and no matter what he has my back.  He was all up for the show just yesterday but upon hearing my intestines and knowing how they can be; we thought of all the excuses of why not to go to this show: 

A. I have met the band

B. If we want to hear them that bad; we can just play them on iTunes

C. More than likely there will be lots of pushing and shoving at this show; could be dangerous for me

D. The bathroom situation at the Catalyst is less than satisfying to say the least and we could tell that this would be a problem for most of the evening and it is so far.  I couldn't imagine going to see a show and having to hear the show from the bathroom and it being a gross bathroom too!(

Yes those excuses far outweighed going to see them.  You only live once I know; but sometimes you have to look at things from a  different perspective.  So far I'm puking and pooping quite a bit  this evening and I also need to drain my stomach!) Fun!)  I think my concert days just might be over.  I can't say never, but it could be a reality. 

I am feeling much better lately and have not had to use any of my prescribed narcotics for several days now (Since Friday).  Thanks to using my vaporizer and all the friends who help me out; what would I do with out all of you?  That is just another reason I live!) 

Peace and Love to all of you!)